The Wild Heart

The Wild Heart is centered, confident, and independent, but also romantic and playful in love. This combination makes them seek out romance but may also make them choosy when it comes to long-term commitment.

The Wild Heart's self-assuredness and capacity for independence is a source of their greatest strength and weakness. They are able to lead fulfilling lives alone and nurture relationships when needed, but can also be fickle romantics seeking in a long-term partner the perfect mix of attraction and distance.

Desires

• A romantic life, full of adventure and varied experiences.
• Spontaneity and fantasy in a romance.
• An independent sense of self and life outside of the relationship.
• Self-discovery and actualization through the vessel of a relationship.
• A partner who has and loves their own life.

Ideal Relationship

• A partner who not only understands and allows them personal space but who may desire some level of this themselves.
• A partner who prioritizes fun, stimulating experiences within a relationship.
• A partner who does not need too much reassurance or too many vocal affirmations.
• A relationship that is full of sparks, spontaneity, and fantasy.

For this type, love and romance can be an instrument through which they develop a greater understanding of themselves, of humanity, and of life itself. Drawn to romance early on, they're quick to develop feelings and if left unbalanced may find themselves jumping from one relationship to the next. They may find themselves embroiled in passionate romances and prioritize fun and spontaneity in romance.

They can be wild and impulsive lovers, but they also have a centered nature and strong sense of self, which helps them navigate the ups and downs of relationships without feeling too uneasy. They may vacillate between times of inward-living and desiring companionship. This is particularly true of introverted types.

Being with an IRCD

While The Wild Hearts struggle with commitment, they subconsciously also desire it. This can be confusing for a partner, especially because they’re not likely to open up and express their feelings without prompting. In the dating stage, they’re in control, planning fun activities, showering partners with affection. This is why dating an IRCD can often be the highlight of a relationship with them. If and when they choose to be in a long-term relationship, their partner is likely to be in the driver's seat more often.

Bright spots of a relationship with an IRCD

• Their playful approach to love can bring a sense of excitement and fun to a relationship.
• This same romantic nature gives them the ability to make a partner feel like the center of their world when they wish to, especially in the dating stage.
• Can compromise and find shared hobbies, goals, and aspirations because of their willingness to step outside their comfort zone in search of fun, exciting, and novel experiences.

Challenges of being with an IRCD

• The IRCD is likely to prioritize variety; settling down may take time for this type. This can be difficult for partners who want stability and commitment early on.
• Love games are part and parcel of how these types approach dating, which can frustrate some types that may misread their playful approach as manipulative.
• The thrill is often in the chase for them, and long-term romances are unlikely to be their focus. This can lead them to beat around the bush when it comes to taking steps towards milestones in a relationship.
• They can disconnect easily when they feel uncomfortable or unwilling to deal with relationship issues or conflict, which can make them seem cold and detached to a partner who does not understand this coping mechanism.

Compatible types

IRCDs love the game of love and are likely to want to attract a variety of partners during the dating stage. As they mature, they might grow to desire partners that reign them in, and they’re likely to be compatible with more centered and anchored types in this vein.

Two IRCDs together can feel like dynamite, as they enter exciting but explosive romances together. While these can be fun initially, there’s likely not enough holding them together in the long term.

• IRCA
• TRCA
• IPCA
• TPCD

Although they are centered, confident, and independent, there is some part of them that can feel lost and disconnected when they’re not in a relationship. Because they then begin to seek out relationships that help them attempt to fill a gap, or figure out what’s missing, romances become self-therapy for them.

How this manifests often depends on the type of partner they’re with. The right partner can help reign them in, anchor them, and become a stabilizing force in their lives. But, for some partners, it can feel confusing and needy. For others, it can feel detached and selfish. For the IRCD themselves, it can be a source of inner turmoil.

Unhealthy adaptations

• Impulsive and excitement-seeking natures lead them to make rash decisions that can put a relationship in jeopardy, often against their own best interests.
• Going too far in every direction makes them flighty in love—unlikely to get past more than a few casual dates because they’re too independent, playful, and apprehensive of commitment all at once.
• An inclination for the thrill of new romances causes them to jeopardize potentially fulfilling relationships before they have a chance.
• Deriving self-confidence and self-worth through a volume of relationships.

Struggles

• Rather than turning away once they sense disinterest, they can become more interested in and attracted to avoidant types. People who don’t give them what they want, are unavailable, or seem like a mystery stoke the flames of their thrill-seeking side, drawing in Wild Hearts.
• Despite their centered side, these types might struggle to open up in relationships. Their self-assuredness and independence make it a challenge to be vulnerable.
• IRCDs can be an intoxicating force for potential lovers. With the potential to attract many types, they must exercise intent in their actions and desires.
• Though more self-assured than some other types, their attraction to variety and mystery might be fodder for feelings of insecurity and self-questioning.

They can be prone to flighty feelings as they often chase the thrill of new relationships. However, despite their thrill-seeking and impulse-driven nature, they’re also likely to desire companionship and the feeling of being loved.

In their healthiest state, they will allow themselves to feel the passion and thrill of their romantic side without letting their impulses jeopardize their chance at a fulfilling romance. With their centered and independent side leading the way, it’s often possible for them to find happiness with a partner when they choose to prioritize it.

Healthy Adaptations

• Finding self-growth through adventure.
• Balancing romantic and chaotic energy with intent and thoughtfulness.
• Not needing relationships or partners to satisfy all of their needs.
• Having a fulfilling life outside of the relationship while controlling their impulsive side helps their partner become someone they’re excited to see at the end of the day.

They can be prone to flighty feelings as they often chase the thrill of new relationships. However, despite their thrill-seeking and impulse-driven nature, they’re also likely to desire companionship and the feeling of being loved.

In their healthiest state, they will allow themselves to feel the passion and thrill of their romantic side without letting their impulses jeopardize their chance at a fulfilling romance. With their centered and independent side leading the way, it’s often possible for them to find happiness with a partner when they choose to prioritize it.

Healthy Adaptations

• Finding self-growth through adventure.
• Balancing romantic and chaotic energy with intent and thoughtfulness.
• Not needing relationships or partners to satisfy all of their needs.
• Having a fulfilling life outside of the relationship while controlling their impulsive side helps their partner become someone they’re excited to see at the end of the day.

The Wild Heart need independence outside of a relationship and can find meaning in love without falling into long-term relationships. However, because they’re open to fun, exciting experiences, one of their biggest strengths is the ability to bring this playfulness and thrill into a romance once they find the right partner.

• Self-confident and self-motivated.
• Unlikely to need excessive reassurance and affirmation in a relationship to feel loved.
• Able to recover from breakups and deal with conflict by reorienting themselves inward and self-reflecting.
• Capable and willing to take chances on new romances without overthinking or analysis paralysis
• Able to set boundaries and unlikely to desire to control their partner.