The Constant

The Constant are romantic yet grounded. They love to spend time with their partners but have an anchored sense of self that helps prevent them from developing unhealthy reliances on them. With these dualities in balance, they’re often able to enter healthy, fulfilling relationships with the right partners.

Their centered side tempers their interdependent tendencies in such a way that they’re able to create close-knit bonds, interweaving their lives with a partner with less risk of veering into any unhealthy attachments.

Desires

• Spontaneity and fantasy in a romance.
• A blended life, enmeshed with that of a significant other.
• A feeling of oneness without losing their sense of self.

Ideal Relationship

• A passionate yet stable romance, where they can blend lives with a partner while maintaining their own sense of self.
• A partner who wants to spend more time together than apart.
• A partner who is a willing participant in the thrills and excitement of a romance but who does not play games in love.

They are uniquely positioned in the realm of romance. They’re able to enjoy the fantasy and thrills of dating, keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship, and also find fulfillment in steady, stable commitments.

Because of this combination, they’re likely to seek a union that is greater than the sum of the two respective parts. It allows them to come together with a partner to form an Aristotle-ideal of love, where ‘two bodies and one soul’ can combine in harmony without either one losing their sense of self.

Being with The Constant

A relationship with this type can be filled with all the thrills and excitement of romance, because they have the ability and willingness to expend energy making a partner feel like the center of their world when they wish to.

Because they’re so centered and focus on commitment and stability, they’re usually going to save this romantic side for the right person. When they let this romantic, fantasy-focused side conquer, it probably means they’re highly interested in a potential partner.

Bright spots of a relationship with The Constant

• They’re able to bring a spark of fun and playfulness into a romance without instability or chaos.
• They’re unafraid of commitment, which means they’re able to make the first move without much hesitation at every stage of evolution in the relationship.
• They like blending lives with a partner but are centered enough in their sense of self that they don't require excessive reassurance in a relationship.
• Can initiate and embrace efforts to keep the spark alive long after the dating stage is over.

Challenges of being with The Constant

• Although they enjoy sharing their lives with a partner, they may not always be willing to compromise on their own and may prefer to find a partner with whom they already have shared hobbies, goals, and aspirations.
• They want to spend their time with a partner and blend lives, but don’t always need reassurance or validation from them. This can be a confusing combination, both for partners who need the reassurance, as well as those who are more independent.
• Can be slow to open up emotionally, while focusing on the fun and fantasy of romance at the same time which can be a challenge during the dating stage. They can make strong first moves, then pull back as they gauge whether a relationship is a good fit for a commitment, which can be confusing for partners who don’t understand how their romantic and anchored sides work together.

Compatible types

With their romantic nature, they attract a variety of types. They look for chemistry and passion, which leads them to partners with romantic leanings. However, because they’re also looking for stability, they also attract pragmatic types, especially those who deem them a compatible match.

For them, it’s more important to feel the right energy than tick a set of predetermined requirements, making them adaptable in the dating stage. Partners who are focused on playing games in love can make them uncomfortable at times. While compatible with many types, they may be wary of highly independent partners. This is part of a fulfilling relationship for a TRCA and they’re likely to find it difficult to compromise on that aspect.

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They may want to allow their romantic side and desire for time together to take over to create instinctive bonds in love, but their centered and anchored side is often pulling them in another direction, where they deliberate and carefully think about a relationship before pursuing it.

It can lead to an inner conflict, one side dominating the other depending on how they’re feeling, their past experiences of relationships, and their potential partners. Since this can be an uncomfortable tug-of-war within their own minds, it may sometimes lead to them giving up on potential relationships rather than working out this inner struggle.

Unhealthy adaptations

• Being an unhealthy emotional anchor in their partners' lives. Trying to solve their partners' problems for them.
• Letting their romantic side dominate without allowing their centered and anchored side to reveal itself, especially in the dating stage, attracts partners who don’t want to commit or settle down.
• Allowing their interdependent side to dominate in the early stages of a relationship leading to unhealthy attachments with partners who are incompatible in the long run.
• Because of their self-assured nature, they bottle up emotions rather than risk being perceived as too needy.

Struggles

• With their anchored side leading the way, their desire for romance may be stifled and they may become too responsible for love. This can make them unwilling to take risks or be spontaneous enough to let love find them.
• Although they’re able to be open and honest once they meet ‘the one’ it can take them time to do this, especially if they’ve been jaded by failed relationships in the past. It can make them appear closed off to partners early on in a relationship.
• They dislike feeling unanchored and so allowing their romantic side to lead the way through the course of a romance can be a struggle, especially if they feel as though the fantasy and thrill they want is putting the stability they desire at risk.
• They are used to reassuring themselves, and if they allow this part to dominate over their more interdependent, romantic side, they may find it difficult to tap into the kind of vulnerability that can build a connection with partners.

Because they seek both romance and stability, TRCAs usually have a smooth ride once they settle into a relationship with the right person. In their healthiest states, they pursue romances where both partners can rely on the other without becoming overly dependent on them to fulfill every one of their needs.

They usually learn from experience. While their romantic and interdependent sides may take precedence during the dating stage, they often settle into a centered, anchored state as the relationship progresses. With the right person, they're able to grow with their relationship, absorbing aspects of a partner’s character without erasing their own.

For example, female-identifying types can tap into their masculine energy, and vice versa for male-identifying types, then harness these energies so they seek less of them from their respective partners.

Healthy Adaptations

• A centered, anchored approach to love helps them offer tangible, all-encompassing support when their partner needs it most.
• Love with the right person transcends pure romance and is transmuted into a grounding force that helps them serve something greater than themselves.
• Prioritizing and developing healthy interdependencies, like reading together in bed or sharing stories about their day, creates mutual support systems rather than unhealthy attachments.
• Find easy compromises in conflict in their most balanced state, allowing for a harmonious blending of two lives into a unified whole without either side sacrificing too much of themselves.
• Prioritizing romance and desiring an intertwined life, but with an equally anchored and centered personality, they understand the value of boundaries and need for independent growth within a relationship.

Because they seek both romance and stability, TRCAs usually have a smooth ride once they settle into a relationship with the right person. In their healthiest states, they pursue romances where both partners can rely on the other without becoming overly dependent on them to fulfill every one of their needs.

They usually learn from experience. While their romantic and interdependent sides may take precedence during the dating stage, they often settle into a centered, anchored state as the relationship progresses. With the right person, they're able to grow with their relationship, absorbing aspects of a partner’s character without erasing their own.

For example, female-identifying types can tap into their masculine energy, and vice versa for male-identifying types, then harness these energies so they seek less of them from their respective partners.

Healthy Adaptations

• A centered, anchored approach to love helps them offer tangible, all-encompassing support when their partner needs it most.
• Love with the right person transcends pure romance and is transmuted into a grounding force that helps them serve something greater than themselves.
• Prioritizing and developing healthy interdependencies, like reading together in bed or sharing stories about their day, creates mutual support systems rather than unhealthy attachments.
• Find easy compromises in conflict in their most balanced state, allowing for a harmonious blending of two lives into a unified whole without either side sacrificing too much of themselves.
• Prioritizing romance and desiring an intertwined life, but with an equally anchored and centered personality, they understand the value of boundaries and need for independent growth within a relationship.

One of The Constant's biggest strengths is the ability to give themselves fully to a partner and be their partner's support system without sacrificing too much of themselves. This helps contribute to an overall sense of stability in a relationship. Their self-assured personality enables them to create a shared life without creating unhealthy attachments.

• Like spending time with their partner, but able and willing to spend time by themselves, especially if they feel the need to prioritize self-growth or personal development.
• Centered enough in their sense of self not to need a partner to feel whole.
• Unafraid of commitment and able to jump into a romance that feels right, but still centered enough to break it off if it feels wrong or begins to morph into an unhealthy relationship.
• Able to find the fantasy and spontaneity in romance, while still grounding themselves in the reality of what a long-term relationship really looks and feels like.
• Can be open and vulnerable in a relationship with the right person without feeling afraid of how their partner is going to react the the ‘real’ version of them.