The Magician

The Magician loves to be in love. From love at first sight to meet-cutes and partnerships written in the stars, these people are most likely to be drawn in by the Hollywood ideals of love and romance. With a strong sense of self combined with these romantic fantasies, they’re able to enter into relationships and interlace lives with a partner in a way that forms healthy interdependencies.

Even though their daring, playful side can often lead to some rash, impulsive decisions, they’re likely to be able to use their self-assured nature and genuine love of romance to check themselves when they’re in the right relationship.

Desires

• A partner (and relationship) that is both dependable and exciting.
• A blended life, enmeshed with that of a significant other.
• Spontaneity and fantasy along with playful fun in a romance.
• A feeling of oneness with a partner.
• An anchoring force in their life.

Ideal Relationship

• A relationship that is the primary focus for both partners, where various aspects of their lives inside and outside the romance are blended together.
• A partner who is able and willing to join them in thrilling adventures and is a companion to their excitement-seeking tendencies.
• A partner who is unlikely to need excessive reassurance and affirmation in a relationship to feel loved.

Classic romantics, Magicians not only love being in love, but they also love the process of falling in love. They’re likely often caught up by the fantasy of love and want to be captured by the fairytale aspect of a romance.

They believe in the ideals of love and are capable of differentiating it from lust, though they may choose one over another depending on what stage they're at in their lives.

Caught up in romance, they can use it as both a thrill and escape from the tedium of life and tend to expend more time and energy than most on making things fit into their romantic ideals.

Being with The Magician

They are self-assured, but they still desire and need some amount from their partners—in particular, fun, excitement, and fantasy in romance. While this can be stressful for partners who may not prioritize romance, TRCDs also value closeness and enmeshed lives, which can make relationships with them full of fun and excitement, but also feel safe and centered at the same time. There is an allure to this type that's impossible to avoid; think of the brooding artist type and you'll see why it's so easy to form attachments to them.

Bright spots of a relationship with The Magician

• Their focus on love and romance means they’re likely to be willing and able to make the first move and take the next step when it comes to relationship milestones like saying “I love you” or moving in together.
• Because they’re not too focused on ticking any pragmatic compatibility boxes, they’re more willing to mold their own hobbies, goals, and aspirations to fit in with and complement with that of their partners when they feel that there’s chemistry.
• They have less desire for separate social lives outside of a relationship, which can benefit partners who want interlaced lives with them.

Challenges of being with The Magician

• The Magicians are self-assured but also tend to subconsciously mold and adapt their behavior depending on what they think their partners prefer, which can sometimes make relationships with them lack true intent or authenticity.
• Their desire for romance and fantasy along with their need to spend more time together than apart can be overwhelming for partners who score high on independence.
• Their desire for excitement and impulse-driven, thrill-seeking tendencies can result in rocky relationships, especially if their partners desire more stability from the get-go.

Compatible types

They love being in love, but they also love playing the game of love. They’re likely to attract a variety of partners and are successful in doing so. Practical compatibility, while a concern, is less of a primary drive for these people, which means they can find themselves falling into romances with various archetypes.

Because of their ability to be self-assured and romantic, people they feel the most spark with make the best partners, likely other romantic types, or those who like them, prioritize things like fun and passion in romance.

As they mature, they may desire partners who have a more anchoring presence in their lives and can keep them grounded within a relationship. However, because they also desire an enmeshed life, they’re unlikely to get along too well with partners who are too practical, too independent, or too anchored, and a combination of those traits is likely an incompatibility from the start.

• IRCA
• TRCA
• TRCD
• TREA
• TPED

Because they like being in love, they are likely to spend time on the dating stage, as well as on keeping the spark alive during a relationship. However, because they’re attracted to the rom-com, fairytale version of romance where two people are ‘meant to be’ despite initial differences, they may mold themselves too much to fit into their partners' lives.

They don’t need too much reassurance, they can absorb a partner's feelings and emotions in an attempt to feel closer to them, which may lead to suppressing their own.

Unhealthy adaptations

• Jumping into a shared life based on initial sparks and chemistry leads to relationships that may not be the best fit.
• Excitement-seeking tendencies may lead to them jumping from relationship to relationship, often against their own self-interests.
• Desire to be with a partner combined with a love of romance leads to subconscious self-sabotage in a relationship like cheating, rather than deal with a mature breakup.

Struggles

• Though they have steady temperaments themselves, because they represent the ideal of love for many, they may attract volatile or interdependent types.
• Difficulty prioritizing themselves or being alone despite an ability to do so.
• While their centered side can help them set boundaries, when they're daring, romantic, and interdependent sides are in the driver's seat they can have trouble maintaining these boundaries.
• Desiring to enmesh lives with a partner but also enjoying the excitement and fantasy of a new romance, can lead to an inner conflict that may cause conflict in long-term relationships.
• They can handle breakups with maturity in their healthiest states, but struggle with unhealthy attachments and run the risk of staying too long in relationships that are doomed from the start, either because they don’t want to be by themselves, or they’re avoiding the discomfort of having a serious discussion to work out conflict.

Fun comes naturally to these types. Alone, they are able to cultivate experiences and bouts of joy. A relationship serves as a means to amplify and complement this inner joy, not to supplement it.

Because of this, and their ability to bring the thrills they seek into a relationship themselves, in their healthiest state they’re able to derive their own happiness without depending on someone else to create it for them.

Healthy Adaptations

• A strong sense of self ensures blending various aspects of life with a partner doesn’t lead to an unhealthy blending of self-identity or any co-dependencies.
• Prioritizing romance even after the dating stage helps keep the spark alive in a relationship.
• Build more honest, and deeper levels of trust and connection with a partner with their centered side leading the way.
• Balances romantic and daring energy with intent and thoughtfulness.

Fun comes naturally to these types. Alone, they are able to cultivate experiences and bouts of joy. A relationship serves as a means to amplify and complement this inner joy, not to supplement it.

Because of this, and their ability to bring the thrills they seek into a relationship themselves, in their healthiest state they’re able to derive their own happiness without depending on someone else to create it for them.

Healthy Adaptations

• A strong sense of self ensures blending various aspects of life with a partner doesn’t lead to an unhealthy blending of self-identity or any co-dependencies.
• Prioritizing romance even after the dating stage helps keep the spark alive in a relationship.
• Build more honest, and deeper levels of trust and connection with a partner with their centered side leading the way.
• Balances romantic and daring energy with intent and thoughtfulness.

The Magicians are the type of people who know what they want and aren’t afraid to go get it. They’re confident enough to make the first moves, but because they tend to intuitively understand the give and take of early romance, they're likely careful not to come off too strong.

They’re able to draw partners in while also keeping them interested. They represent, for many, the ideals of a partner and romantic love.

• They trust the process of love enough to enter relationships without overanalyzing compatibility—they can focus more on their gut feelings.
• They are able to enter (and exit) relationships with more emotional ease than others.
• Even though they’re driven by the fantasy of romance in the dating stage and enjoy the fun side of romance, they also have a desire to blend lives with a partner that helps them check their more impulsive-driven side.
• Despite a preference for interdependence and romance, they are able to meet some of their needs outside of their relationships.