Letting go of pain and resentment caused by those who have done you wrong.

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Forgiving people are those who manage to quickly get past being hurt or wronged. The defining component of a forgiving person is their ability let go of negative thoughts and feelings associated with a wrongdoer and their offense, and replace them with positive ones. They are less likely to hold a grudge or feel the need to "get back" at someone for hurting them. With this, those high in forgiveness are able to maintain inner tranquility as they tend not to internalize feelings of anger and resentment that may weigh them down. They accept the shortcomings of others, and more readily give others second chances. Ultimately, they feel it's best to let bygones be bygones.


In love, forgiving people are more concerned with reaching compromise or repairing/mending the relationship than "winning" an argument when conflicts arise. In these situations, they focus on trying to work through issues with their partner rather than build up resentment, and as a result are less likely engage in behaviours such as avoiding their partner during disagreements.

Those who are forgiving keep a kind and compassionate attitude towards their partner, and can focus on their positive aspects even in difficult times.



Although forgiveness can help one let go of the past, at times it is reasonable to hold negative feelings towards someone whose actions repeatedly or severely hurt you. Likewise, some people don't deserve an unlimited number of chances. It's important that someone's actions, rather than just their words, show they are really/truly deserving of your forgiveness.










To becoming more forgiving, it can be helpful to engage in empathy and perspective-taking. A small step one could take is to practice letting go of minor hassles or transgressions in day-to-day life such as someone being impolite. Instead of feeling the need to talk back, stop and think about what might be causing them to be inconsiderate, and know that not every minor aggression made towards you is worth your time.

If there are some issues that are harder to let go off, it may be useful to talk to someone, but remember that it's important not to spend too much time ruminating about the offense.


Low Scorers

Low scorers of forgiveness tend to hold a grudge and ruminate about an offense. Over time, they are more likely to associate negative emotions with those who have done them wrong, and may think that forgiveness is only appropriate after seeking retaliation or restitution.


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