Those who score high in kindness are other-oriented. They are generous—giving their time, money, or skill to support those in need; and compassionate—showing concern for other people's feelings and showing that they care by being there for someone and listening. They do good for others with the belief that all are worthy of attention and affirmation for their own sake as human beings. Whereas others might be kind because they find that kindness gets them somewhere, genuinely kind people have an underlying impulse to help those in distress or need without expecting anything in return. They believe that the welfare of every individual is of equal importance and feel a sense of social responsibility to care for the well-being of all people, including strangers or those that have been unkind to them in the past.
In love, kind people pay attention to their partner's needs and feelings. Not only that, but they reliably show care and concern for their partner by looking for ways to help them out.
The kind person will not hesitate to offer words of affirmation or demonstrate random acts of affection. They also refrain from engaging in a tit-for-tat mentality, meaning that they are willing to help their partner out without feeling like they are owned something in return.
Making yourself too readily available to the needs of others may result in you starting to push aside your own. When you become too busy taking care of everyone else, you may forget to be kind to yourself. It's crucial to value yourself as much as you value others, as you are just as important as everyone else. Likewise, if you are too kind, others may start to view you as just a means to an end. In this instance, it's important to state boundaries and learn to say no.
It can be helpful to think of kindness as a muscle that can grow stronger with exercise. This means that starting small by doing things like saying "please" and "thank you", or opening the door for someone can aid in developing kindness.
Those who score low in kindness tend to focus more on themselves, always putting their own needs above the needs of others. They are more likely to lend a helping hand in hopes of receiving something or gaining recognition, rather than doing it for its own sake.